Confidence And Courage

Sometimes a single insight cracks open our understanding of what’s been holding us back. In this episode of the Truth About Dyslexia podcast, I explore ideas inspired by the work of Brené Brown and share how her wisdom is shaping my approach to coaching. If you’re intrigued by self-discovery and personal growth, you’re in the right spot.

I’ve been noticing how vulnerability, shame, and empathy weave their way into every coaching conversation I have. These themes influence how we see ourselves and others. By recognising what’s going on beneath the surface, we can create healthier relationships and fresh perspectives.

The Power of Openness and Imperfection

One of Brené Brown’s key insights is that embracing our imperfections unlocks our fullest potential. It’s not always easy, though. We’re naturally wired to avoid showing our flaws or weaknesses; we’re taught that looking strong is the way to succeed.

Yet if you’re anything like me, you sometimes wonder if hiding your quirks or mistakes just adds pressure. Brené sees vulnerability as a place for connection, not shame. She reminds us that it’s OK to say, “I don’t have this figured out yet,” and that we don’t always need to have the perfect answer.

I’ve found this refreshing. People often feel relieved when they realise they’re not alone in second-guessing themselves. It’s a permission slip to be human and let go of that unrealistic drive for perfection.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.” — Brené Brown

Coaching Conversations That Go Deeper

When I work with someone, vulnerability often shows up in subtle ways. I’ll see clients hesitate to share a personal story or mention a feeling they’ve tried to ignore. I’m learning that if I hold a safe space and stay curious, real truths bubble up.

It’s powerful how a single honest moment can shift a conversation. People begin to spot patterns they never noticed before, like how they self-sabotage when they’re stressed or compare themselves to others in a loop of guilt. These aren’t random. They’re clues to the path forward.

For anyone coaching friends or colleagues, consider these pointers:

• Be patient with silences. It’s often the place where hidden thoughts come out.
• Ask open-ended questions. Let people reflect instead of giving them the answers.
• Validate feelings. Remind them that it’s normal to feel fragile when sharing deep stuff.

Small moments of connection build trust. Before you know it, you can get to the heart of the issue and help someone see a new way forward.

Working Through Shame

Shame is sneaky. It can masquerade as defensiveness, procrastination, or that nagging voice telling us we’ll never be good enough. I see it in clients who keep ideas to themselves even when they’ve got something brilliant to share.

There’s a root cause of shame that we often carry from childhood—“I’m different, so I must be broken.” This cripples our confidence. It’s especially true for those of us with dyslexia or ADHD. We learn to hide signs of our differences and try to blend in, but it just builds up more tension.

I’ve urged people to test out reframing thoughts like: “My dyslexia is a problem.” Switch it to “My dyslexia gives me a unique viewpoint.” It’s a gentle mental shift, but it’s enough to start loosening shame’s grip.

Coaches can help by encouraging clients to:

• Identify the story they’re telling themselves—what’s the narrative in their head?
• Challenge that narrative—is it really accurate, or just an old belief?
• Focus on strengths—what unique angles do they bring to the table?

Building Empathy for Yourself and Others

Empathy is about seeing someone else’s reality and not judging it. But it also goes inward. I’ve noticed that people who can’t empathise with themselves struggle to empathise with anyone else.

When a client is too hard on themselves, it’s a sign that self-compassion is missing. We talk about how they’d speak to a friend going through the same experience. Would they offer support, or be harsh and critical? Nine times out of ten, they admit they’d be nicer to someone else than they are to themselves.

Taking that compassionate stance can dissolve tension. It helps you see yourself as you really are: a person who’s trying, learning, and ready to grow. That’s gold in any coaching relationship.

Action Steps for Growth

One of the biggest lessons I’m taking from Brené Brown’s work is that change doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing project. It often begins with small actions each day. As you practice vulnerability, it gets more comfortable. As you question old shame-based narratives, you get less attached to them.

If you’re ready to step into your next stage of growth, try these small steps:

1. Write down one limiting story you tell yourself. Then note one piece of evidence that challenges that story.
2. Ask someone you trust for feedback on a project or idea. Let them see you’re still refining it.
3. Meet difficult emotions with curiosity. Instead of shutting down, explore why they’re there.

Little moves lead to bigger leaps over time. You’ll realise you’re more resilient than you thought.

• Vulnerability can create deeper, more authentic connections
• Shame thrives in silence but starts to fade when acknowledged
• Empathy for yourself makes you kinder to others

If this resonates, the full podcast episode is waiting for you at the top of this page. Give it a listen and hear the real conversation, raw moments, and extra tips on tapping into your own vulnerability and empathy. You might just discover new ways to unlock your potential.