Fight Vs Flight - How I Am Dealing With It

Ever find yourself feeling anxious before a big meeting, exam, or even a casual chat? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into why dyslexia can ramp up anxiety, how it triggers fight or flight, and what you can do to ease that burden.

The key takeaway is that anxiety isn't a flaw. It’s your mind’s way of sounding an alarm that something feels uncertain. We explore practical steps to calm the storm, share personal insights on navigating overwhelm, and remind you that you’re never on this journey alone.

Understanding the Link Between Anxiety and Dyslexia

Anxiety has a habit of showing up when dyslexia is part of the picture. Struggling to read or process information can stir up feelings of pressure. In social or professional settings, worrying about making mistakes often sends stress levels through the roof.

Why does this happen? Because your brain is working harder to cope with tasks that might be simpler for others. You feel exposed, on the spot, and your fight-or-flight reflex can set off an internal alarm. You start to sense your heart beating faster, your palms sweating, and suddenly your thoughts scatter into a hundred different directions.

Recognising Early Signs

Early hints of overwhelm might look like procrastination or a racing mind that can’t settle. They’re signs that anxiety is building. Paying attention to this can save you from a total meltdown.

When you notice something’s off, that’s your chance to step in and do something proactive. Don’t wait until you’re stuck in panic mode. Small changes and early interventions help keep anxiety under control. Trouble focusing or feeling uneasy is the first nudge.

Strategies to Manage Overwhelm

I’ve tried all sorts of methods to calm my frazzled nerves. Some of them worked, some didn’t. Over time, I’ve found a few steps worth sharing. Next time you feel that tightness in your chest, try one of these:

• Take a short walk and clear your head.
• Ground yourself by noticing what’s around you. Focus on physical objects or the warmth of your clothes.
• Slow down your breathing. Inhale for a count of four, hold for four, exhale for four.
• Keep a notepad. Write down any thoughts or to-do items to prevent them swirling in your head.

If you’re in a situation where you can’t step away, try shifting your focus for a few seconds. Pause your anxious thoughts by looking at the details of something in the room or on your screen. That brief mental break can bring a surprising sense of relief.

“I often say, ‘Anxiety is your mind’s alarm system, not a permanent state of panic.’ The moment you realise that, you can start to take back control.” – Stephen Martin

Shifting Your Mindset

One of the big revelations for me was realising I could change how I related to my anxiety. Instead of feeling like a victim, I told myself that my anxious feelings didn’t define me. That switch was huge.

Visualise yourself as the observer of your anxiety. This helps you see it as a temporary visitor rather than a life sentence. When you talk to yourself, be kind. Tell yourself you’re doing your best, and even if you stumble, it’s part of the process. Speak gently so you don’t add to your own stress.

Building a Support Network

It’s easy to keep things bottled up. You might be tempted to soldier on alone, hoping the anxiety fades. But connecting with someone who’s been there can make a difference. Whether it’s a friend, a close colleague, or a counsellor, sharing your worries often reduces their weight.

In my case, I also found people online who had the same struggles. Knowing we’re all in this together helped me feel normal. You might discover that your friend across town has a hidden dyslexic side too, and you never knew. A simple chat can spark an amazing sense of relief.

Of course, professional help can be just as valuable if your anxiety is severe. Don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional. Sometimes a fresh perspective, or specialised tools, can bring a breakthrough you couldn’t have reached alone.

• Find supportive communities or online groups
• Reach out to friends who “get it”
• Contact a counsellor if anxiety disrupts your day-to-day life

We all benefit from a shoulder to lean on. Don’t worry if it takes time to find the right people. Keep looking until you connect with those who truly understand.

Remember, you don’t have to solve it all in one go. Small steps feel easier to manage and help you see steady progress. Stick with the process, and trust that you’ll learn more about yourself along the way.

• Identify your triggers and name them out loud when they show up
• Utilise healthy coping methods before stress becomes overwhelming
• Remind yourself that mistakes are learning opportunities

A Few Things to Take Away

• Anxiety often comes when you’re facing uncertainty, especially with dyslexia.
• Recognising early signs helps you respond before panic sets in.
• Small actions like breathing exercises or a short walk can soothe your nerves.
• Use kindness toward yourself. Self-talk can make or break your day.
• A support network is vital. Share your load and you’ll be amazed at how others show up.

Give some of these tips a try. Notice how you feel when you do. If it helps even a little, that’s progress. Keep going, and keep learning what works for you.

Ready for more? Listen to the full episode at the top of this page. We dive deeper into the subtle ways dyslexia and anxiety intertwine, and I share more real-life examples of what’s helped me. You might just find the insight you’re looking for. Remember, you’ve got this!