#hpd - 3 Monthly Reflection

We all have days where it feels like we’ve messed up beyond repair. Maybe you wake up wondering if you’re broken or if there’s a fault in the way your brain works. Those moments can be tough, especially for anyone with dyslexia, but there is a bright side. Today’s episode shines a light on a simple technique that helped me shift my mindset when self-doubt strikes. It’s a gentle reminder that we’re not alone in this struggle, and we’re certainly not mistakes.

The podcast dives into how our inner dialogue can drag us down, and it offers a way to turn that chaos into something more positive. It talks about the power of consciously choosing a new perspective, even when our thoughts say there’s no hope. Sometimes, a small tweak in how we talk to ourselves can work wonders.

When Dyslexia Feels Overwhelming

There are days when I’m convinced I’ve done everything wrong. The feeling sinks in, and I start blaming dyslexia for my mistakes, or I wonder if something more fundamental is broken. In the episode, I share how these moments aren’t permanent, though they may feel huge at the time.

The truth is, dyslexia can magnify day-to-day challenges. It’s not about weakness or failure, it’s about how our brains are wired. When you notice you’re in a spiral of self-doubt, pausing to recognise what’s happening is the first step out.

“Ever have those days where you just feel like you failed? Like am I broken? Is this dyslexia or was I just a mistake?”

The Technique That Helps

I’m a big believer in practical solutions we can weave into everyday life. This podcast episode highlights one of my favourite approaches: reframing your inner voice. Every time you catch yourself thinking, “I’ve messed up again,” refocus on what you’ve learned or how you can improve next time.

Instead of letting negative thoughts swirl, gently shift to a new question: “What if this mistake is teaching me something?” or “Am I seeing the whole picture?” Asking these questions helps you avoid getting stuck in a loop of self-criticism, and encourages you to be kinder to yourself.

Shifting Self-Talk

It’s natural to focus on what’s going wrong. That mental trap is especially powerful if we tie our self-worth to every success or failure in life. By leveraging the right questions, we remind our brains that there’s always another angle.

Some people find it useful to keep a small journal of reframed thoughts. Others prefer voice notes or shared conversations with close friends. However you choose to do it, carve out a few seconds to acknowledge a negative thought, then switch to a more forgiving perspective.

• Acknowledge negative moments quickly.
• Ask natural questions to break the downward spiral.
• Refocus on opportunities to learn.
• Celebrate any small wins along the way.

Keeping Perspective

Feeling like you’ve failed doesn’t define who you are. These tough moments pass, and the lessons you learn help shape a stronger version of you. In the podcast, we explore why it’s healthy to remember that nobody is flawless. Even those who seem to have it all sorted have their own battles.

This gentle perspective shift isn’t magical, but it can feel like relief when you’re stuck. One simple realisation can spark a chain reaction, making each choice a little more positive. Spot that negativity, respond with kindness, and move on.

Key Takeaways

• Recognise when you’re spiralling into self-criticism.
• Use reframing questions to reset your thoughts.
• Embrace the idea that you’re not broken – you’re learning.
• Keep track of subtle improvements; small changes add up.
• Remember you’re part of a community that faces the same struggles.

Feeling a bit more hopeful? That was the whole point of this episode. If you’d like the deeper dive, have a listen to the full podcast at the top of this page. Let’s keep making these small shifts that build into big changes.