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Ever hear a single word that instantly sets your mind spinning? In this episode, we explore how certain “trigger words” can throw dyslexic thinkers off balance before they’ve even caught the meaning.

We’ll look at why this phrase can be so uncomfortable, how our dyslexic traits might magnify it, and a few ways to manage or neutralise the moment. If you’ve ever felt anxious or annoyed after hearing a phrase at the wrong time, this one’s for you.

Why “Trigger” Can Be So Triggering

The word “trigger” isn’t meant to hurt us. It slips into everyday speech and social media posts. Yet it can feel like a jolt to the system. Our brains are already working overtime and hearing that word can feel like a cue for something bad to come.

Many of us with dyslexia process language in a slightly different way. We’re scanning ahead, bracing for misunderstanding, or preparing to decode words that spin around in our minds. So when we hear “trigger,” we might tense up or lose our train of thought for a moment.

“I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that word and instantly felt my mind shut down—like it was telling me ‘alert, something big is coming.’”

That emotional wave can distract us before we even realise what’s going on. It’s a reflex that can happen often, sometimes without us noticing until later. In the podcast, I share how this has challenged me personally and why I think many other dyslexics can relate.

The Emotional Avalanche

Once you hear a triggering phrase, you might get stuck in an internal loop. You’re thinking about what’s next, worrying you won’t process it quickly, or that you’ll miss something important. This emotional rush is like an avalanche—it starts quick and builds momentum.

In my experience, it helps to recognise when it’s happening. The moment you notice your heart racing and your thoughts scattering, it’s worth pausing and giving yourself a mental breather. Otherwise, the rest of the conversation might pass in a blur.

How Dyslexia Magnifies Trigger Words

Dyslexia can bring fantastic creativity and unique perspectives. Yet it can also heighten our sensitivity to language. Words hold power, and if we’ve been misunderstood or criticised before, that power can double.

A triggering phrase can:

• Steal your mental energy: You’re busy trying to interpret or anticipate words.
• Knock your confidence: You might question if you’re about to misunderstand something.
• Disrupt your focus: Your attention shifts from the current moment to anxiety about the future.

It’s not just about the word itself; it’s the emotional baggage carried by repeated experiences of confusion and self-doubt. Recognising this pattern helps us create space to breathe and respond differently.

Strategies to Tame the Triggers

We can’t ban certain words from the English language, but we can change how we respond. These strategies have helped me, and I hope you’ll find solace in them too.

First, label the moment. If you notice yourself reacting to a phrase, acknowledge it. A simple internal “I’m feeling rattled” can reduce the emotional punch.

Second, shift perspective. Remind yourself that “trigger” might just be a placeholder word. It doesn’t have to signal doom. You can choose how you respond, even if your emotions initially flare up.

Third, practice a mindful pause. Take a breath or two, slow down, and ground yourself. This creates a short gap that helps you decide on your next move. You’re allowing yourself to step back instead of rushing forward in panic.

Practical Go-Tos in the Moment

Sometimes you’re in the midst of a conversation and the word blindsides you. Here are a few ideas you can put into action straight away:

• Ask for clarification: If the conversation is moving too fast, politely say, “Can you repeat that or clarify what you mean?”
• Take a mental note: If you can’t stop for clarity, quickly note down key words or phrases in your head or on paper.
• Stay engaged: Instead of retreating into your own head, attempt to maintain eye contact and keep your posture open.

We often get caught in internal dialogue, especially when language triggers stress. These small steps bolster confidence and help steer your thoughts toward productivity rather than panic.

• Pause and label what’s happening
• Recognise it’s usually an emotional reflex
• Use mindful breathing to settle your nerves
• Ask clarifying questions if needed
• Keep practising alternative responses

If you want more in-depth insights and personal stories about this “triggering trigger word,” be sure to listen to the full episode. You’ll find the player at the top of this page. Join me in unravelling how we can transform anxiety into understanding and keep our dyslexic minds steady, even when words try to throw us off course.