Perfectionism & Dyslexia

Do you ever feel like you need to get everything right, then feel rubbish when you don’t? It can feel like you’re holding yourself to the highest possible standard, leaving no room for mistakes. This episode digs into that pattern of perfectionism and why it can hit so hard when you’ve got a dyslexic mind.

In this chat, we explore why the idea of perfection is so tempting, yet so draining. We also look at a few simple steps to help you shift out of the perfection trap. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I’ve messed it up again,” and getting stuck in that downward spiral, you’re not alone and this conversation might be just what you need.

The Perfection Trap

Many of us imagine some spotless, ideal version of the world in our heads. We paint a vivid picture of how our day, our work, or even our relationships should be. Then we judge ourselves against that mental masterpiece.

One of the biggest challenges is that perfection is impossible. We realise this, but our minds still cling to the fantasy. With dyslexia, there can be an extra layer of self-blame if what we produce doesn’t match our own internal vision.

“Ever feel like the perfectionist of the year - like every year?”

Why It Can Hit Dyslexics Hard

It’s not that all dyslexics are perfectionists, but many of us are. The brain wiring that lets us think creatively can also leave us doubting every detail. We see a million and one ways to improve. This is helpful if we’re refining a project, but it can become torture if we expect everything we touch to be flawless.

Sometimes we’re haunted by past criticisms of our spelling or writing. We work twice as hard to avoid repeating those mistakes, but that can push us toward never-ending revisions. We get caught in a loop of “I want it to shine,” and that desire never feels fully satisfied.

Embracing the Messy Middle

Real life is rarely neat. We step forward, then lose momentum, then move forward again. Setting massive expectations can add a layer of pressure that nudges us off balance.

Instead of being perfect, think about doing what’s enough for that moment. Messy drafts, half-baked ideas, and random scribbles are all part of the creative process. In the end, you’ll be surprised by how complete something can be once you stop overthinking every piece of it.

Practical Tips to Let Go

So how do we stop perfectionism from hijacking everything? Try these strategies:

• Set micro-goals: Break big tasks into small steps. Celebrate each piece you finish.
• Focus on progress: Notice what you’ve achieved rather than what’s left undone.
• Get feedback sooner: Show your work to a friend or colleague to get fresh eyes on it.
• Schedule revision time: Allot a set period for tweaks and changes. Then let it go.
• Recognise patterns: Track times when perfectionism flares up, and plan ahead to manage it.

Remember that perfectionism usually comes from a positive place. You want to do well. You care about your work. That’s great. Just don’t let it steal your joy or stop you from moving forward.

Key Takeaways

• Perfectionism can be a self-created obstacle that holds us back.
• Dyslexics often have a strong inner critic who magnifies every mistake.
• Small, steady improvements trump the pressure of smiling flawlessness.

There’s so much more in this episode, and the player is right at the top if you want to dive deeper. If you’ve been wrestling with perfectionism, this conversation is worth a listen. Visit Truth About Dyslexia to learn more and stay connected.

Give the episode a try and see if you can shift those perfectionist thoughts into healthier, kinder expectations.