Relationships & Communication: Story Time

We all have those moments when a small disagreement feels bigger than it should. Sometimes it’s just a brief spark that lights up an entire conversation. In this episode, I share a story about an argument my partner Holly and I had over the weekend, and how it led to some valuable insights about dyslexia and relationships.

If you’ve ever felt like your emotions get the better of you, you’ll find this episode helpful. We talk about why small conflicts can escalate and how being dyslexic adds an extra layer of complexity. You’ll learn a few tips for recognising when you’re spiralling, plus ways to communicate more effectively.

Small Weekend Tussle, Big Insights

The fight Holly and I had wasn’t anything dramatic. It started when we were both tired and a bit stressed. One of us made a careless remark and the other took it personally. Before we knew it, we were in a full-blown sulk session.

After some reflection, I realised how my dyslexic mind can jump to worst-case scenarios. My brain starts linking old stories and past misunderstandings. Suddenly, a small issue becomes a giant mountain. It’s like the conversation is happening on two levels: reality and the extra narrative swirling in my head.

Here’s the thing: many dyslexics are very good at spotting patterns. This can be a blessing, but it can also draw us into connecting dots that aren’t really there. Then we overreact to a comment that, in truth, wasn’t meant to upset us.

How Dyslexia Can Intensify Emotions

Dyslexia is often spoken about in terms of reading or spelling challenges. But there’s a big emotional component too. Our brains are constantly working overtime, so little triggers can build up fast.

“It felt silly, but sometimes those small disagreements lead to big insights.”

In this instance, I was already feeling off-balance. My mind was already racing through to-do lists, half-finished projects and random worries. Then Holly’s comment arrived in the middle of this mental storm. My dyslexic processing took it personally, even though it was meant gently.

It’s quite common for us to be sensitive to tone or certain words. We might interpret a neutral comment as critical and feel hurt. The risk is letting that feeling turn into anger or shutting down completely.

Turning Conflict into Connection

After the initial tension, we took a break. We both had a chance to breathe. Then we sat down and talked about what happened. It was uncomfortable, but it felt necessary.

We found four steps that helped us defuse the conflict:

1. Pause and Recognise: We had to notice we were upset before we blew up or retreated.
2. Take Space: We stepped away from the heat of the moment without ghosting each other.
3. Talk It Out: We came back to discuss our feelings once we’d cooled off.
4. Agree on a Plan: We created a simple strategy for next time, like using a keyword to pause.

These steps are easier said than done, especially if dyslexia leaves you feeling misunderstood. But it can make all the difference in preventing a small problem from turning into a full-on explosion.

Rewriting Negative Stories

One thing that hit me was how quick I am to replay negative stories in my head. If I believe I’m always missing details or not being heard, I can twist Holly’s words to match that storyline.

To combat this, I started reminding myself that she actually cares about me and my feelings. We’ve built trust by being open about how my dyslexia impacts everyday situations. It’s not about never having misunderstandings again. It’s about catching ourselves sooner and choosing a healthier approach.

If you recognise a similar pattern, here’s what I’d suggest:

• Be Aware: Know your triggers and how your dyslexia might amplify them.
• Share Early: If you sense yourself spiralling, tell your partner or friend what’s going on.
• Choose Optimism: Assume positive intent, even when you’re not 100% sure.

Learning From Small Mistakes

Even though it was just a small fight, I’m glad it happened. We learned so much about each other. The fact that it wasn’t huge made it easier to bounce back quickly. We could apologise, laugh a bit and unpack it for future reference.

If you’re dyslexic, you might find everyday squabbles more draining. Give yourself time to refuel. Once you do, talking things through can become a real chance to deepen trust with your partner or friend. There’s no need to fear these small bumps in the road.

In a way, the little arguments can help you practise. The more you handle them with grace, the easier it becomes to navigate bigger ones later on.

• Small issues can reveal hidden emotional triggers.
• Clear communication helps stop conflicts from growing.
• Dyslexia can add complexity, but also insight.
• Healthy strategies strengthen your relationships.

It’s much like going to the gym. You’re building muscle for handling disagreements in a more mindful, empathetic way.

Key Takeaways

• Recognise when dyslexia-related stresses might be heightening your reactions.
• Take a breather before the conversation escalates.
• Share your perspective openly, so your partner knows where you’re coming from.
• Create a simple plan together for how to handle future triggers.
• Remember that small fights often carry big lessons.

Ready to explore more? The full episode at the top of this page goes deeper into these insights. Have a listen to hear the full story and learn how to approach your next disagreement with a little more calm and understanding.