Relationships & Dyslexia

Relationships can be a beautiful mix of connection and challenge. When dyslexia enters the picture, sorting out communication styles isn’t always straightforward. That’s what this podcast episode dives into—how dyslexics think and talk in ways that can leave partners scratching their heads.

Stephen Martin shines a light on why some of us with dyslexia speak in stories, struggle with background noise, and might snap when our concentration is suddenly broken. He also shares practical steps for building better awareness and empathy. This post will cover the highlights and offer guidance for anyone in a dyslexia-involved relationship.

Why Dyslexia and Relationships Can Clash

A big hurdle is how differently people with dyslexia process information. We often have lots of ideas and can jump from one point to another in a flowing narrative. Partners who think in a more logical, concise way may not follow along. This mismatch can cause misunderstandings, which then lead to frustration on both sides.

When these clashes happen, it’s easy to assume someone’s not listening or not making sense. In truth, our brains are just wired differently. Recognising this wiring and giving each other space to speak is an essential step toward bridging the gap.

Narrative vs. Logical Thinking

One of the main themes in the podcast is the difference between narrative and logical thinking. Narrative thinkers try to weave a story, while logical thinkers want short, direct statements. This can spark conflict if a partner only wants a quick answer. Stephen recalls times when he was asked a direct question, and he ended up telling a mini life story instead.

“It’s not that dyslexics are always daydreaming, we’re just processing in a more story-based way.” — Stephen Martin

When you see it this way, it makes sense that it takes a bit more time for dyslexics to assemble the entire picture. But it also means we need to communicate that we’re not going off on a tangent for no reason. It’s how we figure out what we really want to say.

Noise and Interruptions

Another hidden challenge is background noise. If there’s chatter or music, it can drown out our ability to think clearly. Extra sound can scramble a dyslexic’s mental flow. That’s why creating a quiet moment can be so helpful.

Interruptions are just as tough. Imagine being deep in thought, about to say something important, then somebody cuts in. Many dyslexics find it jarring, as if you lost the thread of your story. In that pause, tension may build and a short-tempered response can slip out. The key is to respect each other’s need for calm and focus.

Fostering Awareness and Support

Stephen shares how open dialogue is the path to progress. When your partner understands how your mind works, they can make small changes that help you function better. The same goes the other way round: if you’re the one with dyslexia, stay curious about your partner’s point of view.

Talking about the impact of dyslexia on everyday life lifts the burden of ‘guesswork.’ Whether you’re dealing with ADHD as well or simply a swirl of dyslexic traits, don’t be afraid to name what’s happening. As Stephen points out, creating a safe space to be heard is one of the best gifts you can give your relationship. If you’d like even broader support, consider joining a community or starting one with others who share the same experiences.

• Forming or joining a support group can create belonging.
• Pause your conversations when too much background noise is present.
• Find ways to keep interruptions to a minimum.
• Be patient with narrative-based communication—there’s usually insight tucked within those stories.

When you take the time to appreciate each other’s thinking styles, you’re one step closer to a healthier bond.

Takeaways

• Dyslexics often communicate in longer narratives rather than succinct answers.
• Misunderstandings in communication can lead to frustration and conflict.
• It's crucial for partners to understand the dyslexic's thought process.
• Background noise can hinder a dyslexic's ability to process information.
• Awareness of dyslexia's impact on communication is vital for relationship success.
• Partners should be encouraged to pause and engage in focused conversations.
• Dyslexics may react negatively when interrupted during concentration.
• Communication challenges can be addressed through open discussions.
• Support and understanding from partners can improve relationship dynamics.
• Creating a support group for dyslexics can foster community and understanding.

Ready to explore the full conversation? Scroll up to listen to the podcast episode, or visit truthaboutdyslexia.com for more insights. You can also join our Facebook community at facebook.com/groups/adultdyslexia and share your experiences with others who understand the journey.