Setting Boundaries As A Dyslexic

If you're anything like me, the word “boundaries” might have sounded alien at first. I used to think boundaries only existed in cricket, but I soon realised they matter just as much in everyday life, especially for dyslexic thinkers. This podcast episode shines a light on why we need boundaries and how they keep our minds from overloading.

We covered a simple approach to recognising when you need space and how to ask for it without feeling guilty. We also explored common ways dyslexics struggle with saying no and how boundaries help break that habit. Here’s a short summary of what we discussed, plus a few tips to get you started.

Why Boundaries Really Matter

Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out. They’re about protecting your mental energy so you can say yes to the right things. Too often, we end up overcommitting and then get anxious or tired. By defining reasonable limits, you’ll find you can focus on things you truly care about.

It’s also about helping others understand what keeps you balanced. When loved ones or colleagues know your limits, they’re less likely to take it personally when you need alone time or a quieter workspace. Clear boundaries remove confusion and set healthier communication habits.

How to Spot “Boundary Blindness”

You might wonder if you're “boundary blind.” This happens if you keep finding yourself in events and obligations you don’t want to do, yet say yes out of habit. Another clue might be constantly feeling stressed because there's never enough downtime.

Listen to your body’s signals. If you notice tension whenever you’re asked for favours, or you dread certain get-togethers, it might be time to examine your boundaries. Don’t assume it’s normal to feel drained all the time. It's usually a sign it's time to consider where you’ve let your lines get blurred.

Strategies for Setting Boundaries

Feeling unsure about how to actually set boundaries? Here are some methods that have worked for me:

• Identify Your Core Needs: Think of what you absolutely need to function well every day—maybe it’s a few quiet hours or a consistent lunch break.
• Practise Saying “No”: This is surprisingly tough. Start with small things you don’t really want to do and decline politely. The more you do it, the easier it gets.
• Communicate Early: Don’t wait until you’re at your wit’s end to tell others you need space. Let people know ahead of time, so they can respect it without surprises.

Sometimes it feels awkward asking for what you need. But it beats letting your frustration build up. Boundaries set the tone for healthier interactions with everyone in your orbit.

Overcoming Guilt and Other Hurdles

One big stumbling block is guilt. We worry we're letting people down or missing out. That guilt is normal—especially for those of us who find it hard to judge what's “fair” versus what's “overdoing it.”

It helps to remember that setting boundaries is about being honest with yourself and others. If you pretend you’re fine doing more than you can handle, it usually leads to resentment. A clear boundary spares you from burnout, and it also helps others know exactly where they stand with you.

As I said in the podcast, don’t be afraid to speak up. That moment of unease is short-lived compared to the relief and clarity you’ll gain once your boundaries are respected.

“I used to think boundaries were just something you’d find in a cricket game, but it turns out they’re the cornerstone of a calmer, more focussed life.”

Practical Next Steps

If you’re ready to test out these ideas, start with something small. Maybe you tell a friend you need 15 minutes of no interruptions to gather your thoughts. Or you stop answering work emails at dinner time. Notice how it makes you feel. Usually, you’ll breathe easier.

It’s also helpful to keep track of where you slip. We’ve all had those moments when we say yes despite our gut telling us no. The more you pay attention, the better you’ll get at handling those moments with intention rather than autopilot.

Remember, it’s not about being rigid or selfish. It’s about finding that sweet spot where you can give to others and still look after your own wellbeing.

• Boundaries protect your mental energy.
• They help you focus on the tasks and people you value most.
• “No” is not a dirty word—it’s a useful tool.
• Communicating early prevents burnout and confusion.
• Practising guilt-free boundary setting is key for a healthy mind.

Want to hear more about how I stumbled my way through this topic and the lessons I learned? Give the full episode a listen. The player is right above for easy access. You’ll find a deeper dive into how to spot boundary gaps in your life and set limits that stick. It’s all part of crafting a life where your dyslexic mind can thrive rather than just survive.

Thanks for reading—now pop on the full episode when you’re ready for all the details!