So Your Partner Has Dyslexia - How To Bring It Up

Have you ever felt unsure about how to bring up dyslexia with someone who hasn’t actually said they’re dyslexic? Maybe you’ve spotted a few signs but you’re not certain if you should mention it. In this podcast episode, we explore why this conversation can feel tricky and share some practical tips to guide you through it.

This episode dives into the importance of being respectful and open when raising the subject of dyslexia. We discuss how to notice signals, approach the topic without making it awkward, and create a supportive environment where they feel safe to share. If you're wondering how to help a friend, colleague, or family member, this conversation will give you the pointers you need to handle it with kindness and empathy.

Why This Matters

Dyslexia can be a sensitive subject. People might have mixed feelings about their diagnosis, or they might simply have never been officially tested. Because of that, you might be the one who notices their signs, especially if you've had your own dyslexia journey. Sharing your observations can feel a bit nerve-wracking, especially if you’re worried about overstepping or offending them.

In the episode, I answered a listener’s question: “How do I bring up dyslexia without making someone uncomfortable?” That’s a common dilemma—nobody wants to push too hard, but leaving them in the dark might make them struggle in silence.

“It can be challenging having the dyslexia conversation with someone when they have not told you directly.”

This quote from the podcast sums up the heart of the issue. We know the chat needs to happen, yet we want to do it in a way that respects both parties. Considering their feelings is essential, because dyslexia isn’t just about reading or spelling; it’s about identity and self-esteem too.

Noticing the Signs

You might pick up on clues that signal dyslexia. It could be consistent spelling mistakes that appear more than a one-off slip, difficulties organising thoughts in conversation, or everyday frustrations that go beyond normal forgetfulness. These signs alone don’t guarantee dyslexia, but if they appear often, it’s worth thinking about.

Some people hide it really well, especially if they learned to adapt decades ago. They might have strong coping strategies like using apps or quietly asking friends to check their writing. But if you’re seeing them stressed or working overtime just to keep up, that’s a hint they might welcome some friendly support.

How to Start the Conversation

One of the best ways to open this dialogue is to share a bit of your own experience. If you’re dyslexic or even just suspect you might be, mentioning it can break the ice. People often feel less defensive if there’s a sense of shared understanding.

You could begin by saying something like, “I used to think everyone struggled with reading in the same way I did. It wasn’t until I realised I was dyslexic that everything made sense.” By offering your story, you invite them to reflect on their own experiences without jumping to conclusions.

When you do ask them about it, keep your tone relaxed and curious rather than inquisitive. Gentle questions like, “Have you ever considered dyslexia?” or “Have you noticed certain challenges with reading or focusing?” can open the door without shoving them through it. Respect their answers, whether they say yes, no, or not sure.

Offering Helpful Resources

Once you’ve tested the waters, it’s good to know what practical support exists. It’s far easier to start the conversation when you have a few resources or suggestions up your sleeve.

• Share a trusted dyslexia screen or assessment tool.
• Recommend a supportive community or local group for adults with dyslexia.
• Suggest apps that assist with reading, writing, or memory.

These resources can take the sting out of the discussion. If someone’s on the fence about getting a proper diagnosis, offering friendly leads can give them a sense of control. Just remember: it’s their choice whether to explore further.

Maintaining an Empathetic Tone

Empathy goes a long way in any awkward conversation. We all know how it feels to be on the receiving end of unsolicited advice. That’s why it helps to emphasise that you’re there to listen and not judge. Offer a listening ear, and let them do the talking whenever possible.

Avoid framing dyslexia as a flaw. Instead, try seeing it as a different way of thinking. This reframing can shift the conversation from negative to empowering. Dyslexia often comes alongside creativity and strong problem-solving skills, so pointing out those positives can encourage them to open up.

Finally, let them know they’re not alone. Dyslexia is more common than many people realise. People from all walks of life face similar challenges. By being open, you help normalise it and reduce the fear that they’ll be singled out.

• Let them share their views without feeling rushed.
• Use gentle language like “wonder if” or “have you thought about…”
• Offer your own stories to make it relatable.
• Keep the environment calm and private, if possible.

These small actions can help someone feel safe enough to explore the possibility of dyslexia. They might open up in ways you never predicted, which can spark a new sense of understanding for both of you.

Key Takeaways

• Notice subtle signs, but don’t jump to conclusions.
• Share personal experiences to build trust.
• Approach the topic gently and let them lead the conversation.
• Encourage them to seek support, but remember it’s their choice.
• Stay empathetic by emphasising that dyslexia is just a different style of thinking.

If this is something that’s been on your mind, or you’re simply curious to learn how others handle delicate dyslexia conversations, be sure to listen to the full episode. You’ll find the podcast player right at the top of this page. We dive deeper into tips, strategies, and personal insights that might just spark the confidence you need to raise this important topic with the people in your life.