Why Dyslexics Struggle With Self-confidence
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Have you ever felt like you’re not as confident as others expect you to be? Or wondered why simple tasks can sometimes feel so overwhelming? This week on the podcast, we delve into dyslexia’s connection with self-confidence and how it can shape every part of our lives—for better or worse.
In honour of Dyslexia Awareness Month, we explore what it means to believe in yourself when the world often misunderstands your mind. We look at the struggles and the surprising wins that come with being dyslexic. This episode is all about seeing yourself in a new light and discovering how to nurture your confidence.
Why Dyslexia Can Undermine Self-Confidence
Dyslexia isn’t just about words and letters. It’s about how our minds process information in unique ways. Many of us grow up hearing we should “try harder” or that we’re being lazy when our difficulties have deeper roots.
This constant misunderstanding can chip away at our self-esteem. Over time, repeated knocks from teachers, peers, or even family can make you question your abilities.
“We’re told we should just ‘be more confident,’ but that can be tough when your mind works differently.”—Stephen Martin
Yet dyslexia can also be a source of resilience. Some of us develop tremendous creativity and creative problem solving. When you recognise these strengths, you begin to see dyslexia not as a curse, but as a hidden advantage.
The Sneaky Signs of Low Self-Belief
You might think low confidence shows up as shaky public speaking or shyness, but it often wears many faces in dyslexia:
- Avoiding new tasks and challenges
- Procrastinating because you fear failure
- Sticking to routines and habits, even if they’re unhelpful
- Constantly worrying about what others think of you
These behaviours may feel like the only way to keep yourself safe from disappointment. The truth is they hold you back from exploring your actual potential. Learning to spot the warning signs can be the first step in taking charge of your inner dialogue.
Shifting Away From the Inner Critic
Many dyslexics have an internal voice that’s way too hard on them. It’s the voice that never says “you did well” and always says “you could’ve done better.” When this voice is in control, it’s easy to forget the times you’ve succeeded.
To change that narrative, it helps to challenge negative thoughts. If you catch yourself thinking “I’m going to fail,” try asking, “What if I manage this just fine?” You create a mental space to prove that inner critic wrong.
Surround yourself with people who get it. Friends, coaches, or colleagues who appreciate your strengths can help shift that harsh internal commentary to a more supportive tone.
Practical Steps to Build Real Self-Confidence
Hoping for confidence won’t make it appear overnight. You need tangible exercises to gradually form new habits:
- Set Small Goals: Pick one task that seems just a little challenging, like reading a short article each day. Celebrate each success, no matter how small it seems.
- Seek Support: Find a mentor, a friend, or a supportive group. Sharing obstacles and tips can lighten the load and keep you motivated.
- Practice Positive Self-Talk: Swap out “I mess up everything” for “I’m learning, and mistakes happen.” Over time, it makes a big difference.
- Keep Trying New Things: Whether it’s learning a new skill or attending a workshop, breaking out of your comfort zone helps prove to yourself that you can adapt.
Take Back Your Power
Dyslexia doesn’t have to be a life sentence of self-doubt. When you accept the reality of how your brain works, you put yourself in a position to thrive. This often combines day-to-day wins with guidance from experts and a community that understands.
If you’re looking for structured help, consider signing up for the Last Master Your Dyslexia: Live course of the year. It’s a chance to connect with others who know exactly what you’re facing—and share insights that can make all the difference.
- Recognise you have unique strengths as well as challenges
- Question that harsh inner critic to break its power
- Experiment with small, brave steps that build lasting confidence
- Seek out supportive relationships to reinforce your progress
Ready to learn more? Listen to the full episode in the podcast player at the top of this page. You’ll hear personal stories and practical advice to help you move forward with less doubt and more belief in your abilities.
