5 Relationship Problems For Dyslexics

5 Relationship Problems For Dyslexics

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing simple moments in a relationship because of dyslexia, you’re not alone. Plenty of us face unexpected challenges in communication and self-expression, and we often feel like we're fighting an uphill battle.

This episode delves into what makes relationships tricky when dyslexia gets in the mix. It covers five common issues I've run into over the years, along with lessons learned from my own experience. Below you’ll find some insights, but don't forget the full podcast is right above for a deeper dive.

Why Dyslexia Can Make Relationships Tricky

Dyslexia isn’t just about mixing up letters or struggling to read. It can affect the way we process emotions, thoughts, and everyday interactions. In relationships, this might mean we latch onto certain fears or miscommunicate because our brains interpret words differently.

Our loved ones may not always realise these invisible battles. They might see our confusion as a lack of interest or think we’re being careless. In reality, we’re trying our best but often wind up feeling misunderstood.

Struggles With Verbal Communication

Words can be slippery for dyslexics. Sometimes we fumble mid-sentence or pause too long while we hunt for the right phrase. I’ve had arguments escalate because I couldn’t articulate my feelings properly, so I just shut down instead.

  • Misplaced words in tense moments
  • Panic when thoughts remain stuck in our heads
  • Feeling guilty for not being clearer

Our partners might think we’re avoiding the conversation when the truth is we’re panicking that we’ll come off as foolish. Over time, I learned to say, “I just need a second to find the right words.” This little pause can avoid a lot of hurt.

Hyper-Focus on Emotional Signals

Sometimes we read too much into our partner’s tone of voice or body language. Our brains interpret signals we think are there, but might not be. This can spark anxiety or lead to constant reassurance-seeking.

Before I realised how dyslexia fuels my sense of subtle cues, I would ask dozens of questions if my partner seemed quiet. “Are you upset? Are you sure you’re OK?” My partner usually was fine, but I would project my own worry onto them.

Fear of Mistakes and Over-Apologising

Prolonged experiences of feeling “off” can turn us into apology-machines. I’d say, “Sorry” if I stumbled over words or forgot something small. My partner would often say, “You don’t have to apologise all the time. It’s OK.”

At one point in the episode, I said:

“It was painful for me and my partners. I wanted to share five problems I had with previous partners and share some learnings from where I am now.”

I used to think constant apologies showed I cared. In truth, it came across as self-critical and sometimes frustrated the people I was dating. Finding balance was key. No one wants to date a doormat, and no one wants to date someone who never accepts responsibility. Learning where to draw that line can take time.

Putting Up Unnecessary Walls

Because of self-doubt, I used to put up emotional walls so I wouldn’t get hurt. I’d hold back on sharing my dreams, fears, or desires, thinking it would save me from rejection. Dyslexia is already misunderstood, so I didn’t want to risk people misunderstanding me on a deeper level.

Over time, though, I realised it’s better to risk a bit of hurt than to push a partner away out of fear. Whether you’re dyslexic or not, vulnerability lets relationships grow. Dyslexia just adds a learning curve to that process.

Lessons I’ve Picked Up

Despite all the bumps, I found ways to keep relationships healthier:

  1. Open Conversations: Saying “I’m dyslexic and here’s what it means” can defuse misunderstandings early.
  2. Patience With Yourself: It’s tempting to label ourselves messy or forgetful. Show patience the way you would for a good mate.
  3. Seek Help If Needed: Counselling or coaching can open your eyes to patterns you might not notice on your own.
  4. Practice Active Listening: We don’t always need perfect words, but let’s make our partners feel heard instead of overshadowed by our own anxieties.
  5. Laugh at the Little Gaffes: If you jumble words, turn it into a light moment. A sense of humour builds closeness.

Sharing these tips is my way of saying it’s normal to struggle with relationships when you’re dyslexic. We’re not broken, we’re just wired a little differently.

  • Communication hiccups are common
  • Emotional intensity can lead to overthinking
  • Fear of mistakes might create extra apologies
  • Walls only keep us isolated
  • With the right mindset, dyslexia can become a superpower

Remember, these are just quick snapshots. If you find yourself nodding along or want to dive deeper, the podcast above has the full story. I go into each challenge in detail and share how I’ve managed to keep relationships stronger in spite of (and sometimes thanks to) dyslexia.

Curious to learn more? Press play on the episode and let’s keep the conversation going.

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