Goal Setting For Brains That Don’t Do Boring

Is the start of the year making you think about all the goals you want to achieve? You’re not alone. Many of us, especially those of us who are neurodivergent, feel a bit of pressure this time of year. In a recent podcast episode (player is at the top of the page), Stephen Martin explores how to set goals that really work, without overwhelming yourself. He talks about emotional connection, gratitude and building a routine that supports your natural thinking patterns.

Stephen shares how he used to bury himself in a massive list of goals and then feel like a failure when only a fraction got done. Over time, he discovered a gentler, more focused approach that combines purpose and curiosity. Rather than striving to do everything, he encourages us to connect deeply with each new goal, experience gratitude in advance and use routines we can actually stick to.

Why Emotional Connection Matters

For many adults with dyslexia or ADHD, writing a standard list of tasks is rarely enough. Stephen talks about the importance of forging a real bond with each goal. Ask yourself: “Can I see it and feel it?” Visualising your goals helps them weigh more heavily in your mind.

In his own words:

“I used to write these giant laundry lists of things. Then I realised I needed to actually feel something about them.”

He noticed that when he felt excited or moved by a goal, he was more likely to follow through. Imagine the small details of succeeding, like hearing the applause at your first public talk or tasting that celebratory meal after staying sober for 12 months. Let your senses guide you.

The Role of Gratitude and Purpose

In Stephen’s journey, gratitude has become the backbone of setting new intentions. Instead of waiting until the end of the year to be thankful, he suggests feeling that appreciation now and imagining how you’ll be grateful later. This mental shift sets a positive tone and builds momentum.

He also mentions how crucial it is to align your goals with your sense of purpose. Lots of people have a vague idea of what they’re chasing. Stephen encourages you to ask: “Why do I want this?” Connecting a goal to a clear reason injects more passion and helps keep you motivated.

Building a Routine You’ll Actually Use

Let’s be honest, routine can be a struggle if you’re easily distracted. But Stephen argues that a flexible structure can hold you together in the busiest moments. You might try thoughtful scheduling or chunking tasks into shorter sessions.

If mornings are your calmest period, do your most demanding thinking then. If evenings are better, lean into that. The goal is to create a cycle you can trust all year. Remember that you don’t need to copy anyone else’s routine. Adapt it for your life and mental rhythm.

• Embrace short bursts of focus.
• Set mini-deadlines to gain clarity instead of drifting.
• Look for technology to help you track time or tasks without pressure.
• Reward yourself with activities you love.

Object Permanence and Emotional Permanence

Dyslexia and ADHD often come with unique memory quirks. You might forget about certain projects when they’re not in front of you. Emotional memories can also fade quickly. Stephen highlights that having systems in place is key. Whether it’s a sticky note on the fridge or a daily alarm, little reminders keep your goals fresh.

This isn’t about feeling guilty over forgetfulness. It’s about understanding that if something is out of sight, it can truly be out of mind. A simple physical prompt or digital nudge can bring it back into focus.

Takeaways

• You’re not alone if you feel like you fail.
• Visualise goals to build a stronger emotional connection.
• Gratitude can fuel motivation before results appear.
• Your routine should match your energy and attention patterns.
• Object permanence and emotional permanence affect daily life. Use reminders to stay on track.

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Ready to dive deeper into Stephen’s process? Visit truthaboutdyslexia.com to learn more or connect with others just like you in our Facebook group. For the full story and additional insights, listen to the full podcast episode above.