How To Make Your Brain Confident (simple Hack)

Ever wondered why some days you feel unstoppable while on others you’re hiding behind your coffee cup? That’s confidence for you. It comes and goes, and it’s rarely as rock solid as people make it out to be.

This episode explores the rollercoaster of self-belief and how we can nurture it. Stephen Martin talks about moving past the myth that confidence is static and that “confident people” have it sorted in every situation. Instead, he focuses on small steps, honest conversations with ourselves, and a willingness to accept that confidence can rise and dip daily.

Confidence Is Not a Fixed State

Confidence isn’t something you either have or don’t. It shifts over time. Many of us look at others and assume they’re fearless. We picture them breezing through life, making bold decisions without a second thought. But that’s not the full story.

Even the most seemingly self-assured people have areas where they feel nervous. They might be acing it at work but find public speaking daunting. As Stephen said, “At no point was I completely confident on everything.” It’s a reminder that we’re all works in progress.

Facing the Confidence Myths

We often fall for the myth that if someone appears confident, they must be so in every area of life. In reality, that calm exterior might be hiding a heap of jitters. Society encourages us to put on a brave face, which can lead to comparing our insides to someone else’s outside.

“No one's a confident person in everything. People pretend to be confident.” — Stephen Martin

It’s easy to pretend. Social media ramps this up, with highlights that don’t show the deep breathing and sweaty palms behind the scenes. Recognising that others are pretending removes some of the pressure. We don’t need to force ourselves to be superhuman. We only need to keep nudging our confidence in the right direction.

Building Inner Confidence

Stephen suggests confidence is something you become by doing little things right. Whether you’re managing ADHD or living with dyslexia, self-doubt can creep in when people misunderstand you. That’s why these small wins make all the difference. Maybe you learn to structure your day in a way that supports your focus. Or you write down a tiny to-do list and cross off tasks one by one.

Little steps lead to momentum. Think of it like a garden. You can’t force a flower to grow overnight, but you can water it consistently and give it sunlight. These small efforts compound into larger confidence boosts down the line.

Tuning In to Your Inner Voice

Sometimes, we forget to listen to what’s going on inside us. We push our doubts aside, hoping they’ll vanish. Or we speel out loud and second-guess ourselves. The truth is, confidence starts from that inner chatter, so ignoring it may cause more harm than good.

Deciding to be confident is one part of the process. We also want to grow kindness towards ourselves, especially on days we feel wobbly. Checking in regularly can do wonders—asking, “How am I really feeling right now?” That simple question can reveal the small step that keeps you on track.

Accepting Help and Community

For adults with dyslexia or ADHD, finding a supportive community can help nurture confidence. Sharing experiences—both victories and regrets—reminds us we’re not alone. People around us act as mirrors, helping us see our real strengths and highlight what we bring to the table.

It’s not always easy. We can find ourselves thinking, “I should handle this on my own.” Yet reaching out to others who understand your struggles can reframe your perspective. Support groups, online forums, or face-to-face chats help break the cycle of self-doubt. You don’t have to carry the load all by yourself.

• Celebrate small wins daily.
• Talk to someone who understands your challenges.
• Stop comparing your weakness to someone else’s highlight reel.
• Keep reminding yourself that confidence is a journey, not a final destination.

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Key Takeaways

• Confidence fluctuates; it’s never constant.
• Everyone pretends sometimes, so don’t believe the perfect front.
• You can become confident by doing small, consistent actions.
• Your inner voice matters—listen to it and nurture it.
• Communities, mentors, or friends can boost your resilience.

If you’d like more insights and real-life tips, check out truthaboutdyslexia.com. They have heaps of resources and a friendly Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/adultdyslexia. Don’t face it alone: a community that understands dyslexia and ADHD is a powerful confidence builder.

Ready to hear more? Have a listen to the full episode in the player above. You’ll come away with practical advice on tackling life’s ups and downs with a healthy dose of confidence.