You Are Not Special

Have you ever been told you’re special, only to feel the label weighing you down? Many of us with dyslexia grew up hearing we were “unique” in classrooms that made us question our worth. In this episode, we dive into that confusing experience and explore what changed once we saw through the illusions.

We talk about the myth of being special, the trap it sets, and how realising the truth can free you to create your own path. It wasn’t always simple to break out of that mindset, but when it happened, everything shifted.

Understanding the “Special” Label

Growing up, the word “special” might appear kind. Yet sometimes it implies you’re fragile or require extra coddling. That’s tough to process when you just want to fit in. For many of us with dyslexia, being singled out feels isolating.

Looking back, I used to think I needed that special attention. Now I see it as a misunderstanding of how I learned best. Feeling singled out stopped me from embracing the strengths that come with thinking differently.

The Myth of “Unique”

When teachers and parents say, “You’re unique,” it sounds positive. There’s a subtle implication that you might be too different to make it on your own. It took me years to realise it was more about their perception than my reality.

Labels can keep us in a box. Feeling unique, but helpless, can lead to a cycle of underachievement. Let’s not rely on these tidy terms to define who we are.

The Lightbulb Moment

“I was in a special English class. I kept getting told I was special and unique. But it was BS. When I learned that, it all changed.”

That blunt moment of clarity showed me that being “special” wasn’t helpful anymore. I realised my brain was wired in a way that could do things others struggled with. I also saw how I’d let someone else’s labels shape my expectations.

It was time to stop relying on the “you’re unique” story. Instead, I started asking myself new questions. Where do I truly shine? How can I share my unique take on life without letting that label hold me back?

Rewriting Your Story

After that revelation, I began reframing my journey. I looked at skills that felt natural and leaned into them. Instead of hiding from reading issues, I adapted with audiobooks and text-to-speech tools. I also connected with people who thought like me, which helped me see I wasn’t alone.

There’s no single right way to redefine your story, but here are a few things I found helpful:

• Keep track of small wins, like finishing a challenging chapter.
• Explore technology and apps to streamline daily tasks.
• Talk openly with friends who support your growth.
• Set goals that resonate with your own interests.

Over time, I discovered that what felt like a problem was actually a powerful catalyst for becoming more resourceful and creative.

• Labels can trap you—words like “special” may not help.
• A reality check helps you take charge of your journey.
• Dyslexia can be a key to creativity, not a roadblock.
• Embracing honesty with yourself is the best step forward.

Ready for more? The podcast player is right at the top of the page. Listen to the full episode to hear my personal stories, along with extra tips for realising your true capabilities. Don’t wait—your breakthrough might be just one episode away.